Sometimes you have to be gentle before being the aggressive Dom. Some subs need to be eased into their role as they have been steadfastly denying it for so long in their life. A nice gentle kiss and a push on the back of their head goes miles to help them realize their place. SomeMenAreJustBetter http://somemenarejustbetter.tumblr.com is a master at describing the technique.
You’re doing it right when the inferior starts shedding tears.
We Shall Feast And Take Our Fill And Rejoice,
We Shall Worship The Warm Flow Of The Master’s Seed,
And The Sacret Satanic Cunts Of Our Slaves…